Sorry, Not Sorry About The Kids. | by Joshua Woolf

Look, it really doesn’t matter if you are the greatest parent in the world (not that there is a such thing), kids will be kids. When we are at family weddings or if we have someone watching the kids while us parents are on a date there can be feelings of guilt about how difficult it can be to watch the kids- especially if the person watching them isn’t a parent themselves.

Here is a list of things our children may do while you spend quality time with them- sorry, not sorry. Growl loudly like a dinosaur. Howl at the moon at all hours of the day. Stomp up and down the hall. Stomp in place. Kick the back of your seat in the car. Try to climb in your lap and then immediately climb back down, and then back up again. Pull your hair. Touch your face. Grab your hand and pull at you until you sit on the ground. Ask you to draw something, then criticize and ask you to do it again. Take your purse/bag/wallet and dump out the contents on the floor. Take your car keys, hide your keys, set off your car alarm. Ask you to take them on a walk, only to find out they want to walk to the toy store. Guilt you into purchases. Break promises. Ask you to cook something, not eat it, eat your food instead. Pull the milk out of the fridge- spill. Pull rice/cerial/anything small out of cabinet- spill.
Cry at your wedding, yell at the funeral, drop silverware at the restaurant. Keep you up late, wake you up at 2am/4am/6:55am. And the list is growing and changing daily.

-Joshua Woolf

Endure. | by Joshua Woolf

Endure – to suffer patiently.

It’s not just you. You aren’t the only one. Someone has it worse. Someone who looks like he has it better could actually have it worse and someone who looks like he has it worse could very well have it better than you think.

The world is a tough place right now. People are starving, people are suffering, people are sick and obese and addicted and depressed and killing and hurting and fighting for every imaginable combination of reasons.

Yet you are here. You are experiencing an era that allows you to see all of it at once. For better or worse you have a more globally broad perspective of the entire human population than any civilization who has ever lived on this earth. It’s true that the mangled media contrives stories and agenda is pushed but through the lies the truth still boils out and You were born at this time to see it.

I’m in awe of how much we can endure. We can see so much negative and still manage to see good and perpetuate values that make us people a species with meaning. Family, Love, Freedom, Individuality, Greatness. We strive to enjoy what is here to be enjoyed and when it’s tough we take pride in the simple. We embrace what is there to be embraced.

As a member of the so called civilized western world I sometimes momentarily forget just how sweet it really is- and that is okay. It’s okay to feel angry or frustrated and even envious as long as it gets dismissed after its felt and you let it go. Don’t hold onto that negativity. It’s selfish and self destructive. Don’t get hung up it’s unhealthy. Dismiss. Exhale. Move on and appreciate all that is here. Meditate.

Sometimes it’s just that way. You work hard, love your family. Be patient. Give back.

-Joshua Woolf

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2 AND 4

Hello Everyone! Our kids keep getting bigger, I'm reminded of this every day as I see so many pictures posted of your beautiful children brand new and cuddled up in their swaddles. I think back to just a couple years ago being in the hospital getting to know my newborn babies. We stared at their little features for hours on end, cried with joy, and sat breathless taking in all the little coos and cries that squeaked out of their mouths like music. Being able to fit our babies entirely in our arms without flailing legs, gently rocking them to sleep as we gaze deeply into their eyes. "What will they be like?" We ask ourselves. You don't realize in that moment but you already know them, so much of their personality is right there from birth. People tell you during that time that it goes by so quickly and you should soak it up as much as you can, but in-between sleepless nights, endless diaper changes, and general worry it's hard not to take those fleeting moments for granted. You turn around and find that you are no longer bouncing a baby around in your arms, and instead your chasing them around the house.

Our children are now 2 and 4 years old. We take so much pleasure in playing games with them, teaching them, and just goofing off and laughing together- but they certainly aren't babies anymore. At night we picture them tiny and wrap our arms around them and take in deep breaths. We hold their hands while they sleep and sit still trying to make those moments last forever.

We are so blessed for these little lives we've made. Not that you need it from us, but we just wanted to send out a little reminder- keep up the good work, enjoy your little ones, write down everything, take pictures, they are growing right before your eyes.

Love you all!

The Woolfs.

COULD I HAVE THAT? MINI

So honored to be featured in the COULD I HAVE THAT? MINI digital magazine for Fall 2016. It's a beautiful magazine for all things kids, babies and motherhood. Thank you so much Samantha Wennerstrom!

 

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My Breastfeeding Story

When I first dreamed of being pregnant and raising a newborn I always imagined a glamorous picture. It never even dawned on me that there would be labor pain, sleepless nights, restless leg syndrome every night at 9:00pm, crazy hormones and lanolin cream for sore nipples. I learned real quick when the nurses handed us our baby girl at the hospital that this glamorous picture was far from reality. I'll never forget a few days before giving birth a woman told me to go in with a mind set that "you're an animal." At first I thought that was crazy but I soon realized she was right on the money. I was there in the hospital and all I could remember was my girlfriend Emily Helen telling me "you've got this!",  "if I can do it, you can do it!" and Francis telling me to "be an animal!" and that's what got me through labor & delivery and my first day of breast feeding my baby girl. You have to be brave, you have to remain calm but fierce, you have to be "an animal." If you can remind yourself that your body created a child inside your womb then you are also equipped to handle labor & delivery and the beautiful experience of breast feeding.

How often should I breast feed? Your newborn should be nursing 8 to 12 times per day for about the first month.
By 1 to 2 months of age, a breast fed baby will probably nurse 7-9 times a day.

Before your milk supply is established, breastfeeding should be "on demand" (when your baby is hungry), which is generally every 1½ to 3 hours. As newborns get older, they'll need to nurse less frequently, and may develop a more reliable schedule. Some might feed every hour and a half, whereas others might go 2 or 3 hours between feedings. Newborns should not go more than about 4 hours without feeding, even overnight. -kids health.

Are feeding intervals counted from the time my baby starts or stops nursing?
You count the length between feedings from the time when your baby begins to nurse, rather than when he or she ends, to when your little one starts nursing agian. In other words, when your doctor ask how often your baby is feeding, you can say "about every 2 hours" if you first feeding started at 6a.m. and the next feeding was at around 8 a.m., then 10a.m., and so on. -kids health.

Olive at 4 weeks old wanted to sleep through the night. However, I would dream feed and change her diaper once or twice a night. That all changed when she started teething around 12 weeks and she was waking up on her own.

The day we came home from the hospital was a bit overwhelming. I wouldn't have the call button for the nurse and lactation specialist? Oh man, was that scary! Not to mention my hormones were running wild with the thought that our little one was entering the outside world (Definitely shed some tears during the car ride home). Finally we get home and I immediately had a question. Should I pump? I was so scared it would dry up my breast milk that I didn't. Soon after my engorged breast reduced, I pumped. My sister who had a baby 9 months after I did took my advice and still to this day has storage freezers bags full of breast milk.
So proud of you Lacy!!

Why pump in the beginning? 
In the beginning is when you have the most milk supply. Pumping AND nursing will keep your milk production up.

When is the best time to pump?
The best time to pump for me was early in the morning and late at night.

Different positions to breastfeed:

  • The Cradle; Sit with baby lengthwise across your abdomen with your elbow supporting her head and your hand supporting her bottom. Your other hand supports the breast.
  • The Cross Cradle; Lay baby on her side, well supported (consider a nursing pillow) and touching you. If you're feeding on your left breast, use your right arm to support baby's body and your right hand to support her head. Your fingers support the left breast.
  • Side Laying Position; To feed on the left breast, lie on your left side with your back supported. Lay baby on her side facing you, her chest against yours. Your right arm will support her body, and your right hand will support his head, bringing him toward your breast. Some mothers are more comfortable with the baby supported in the crook of their arm.
  • The Football Position; Hold baby at your side face up and lengthwise, supported by pillows. If nursing on your right side, use your right arm to support baby at your side, and guide her head to your breast.

Olive spit up a lot so feeding her in the football position seemed to work for us better because she was more in a up right position. It was also easier to burp her when switching sides. She stayed within her growth chart at her monthly pediatrician visits so we never had to worry about the spit ups being a problem. Eventually she stopped spitting up at 8 months old. (no more laundry problems...Yay!)

Breast feeding can be easier if you have a daily routine. Take a look at our routine

Is my baby's poop normal? This is a visual guide I thought was super helpful. Baby Poop: A visual guide.

In the end we survived. I managed to push through my first few weeks of pain by using lots of lanolin cream and cold packs for my sore nipples and engorged breast. Once I became comfortable and confident breastfeeding began to get easy and feel natural. I set a goal for myself to breast feed Olive for 1 year. I am happy to report that I breast fed for 1 year and 4 months.

My pediatrician strongly encouraged me to push the foods so I did.

We started introducing:

  • Apples and Bananas in a mesh feeder when she started cutting teeth around 5 months.
  • Puréed Food (Bananas, Apples, Carrots, Avocado, Egg Yoke, Sweet Potatoes) around 6 months.
  • Puffs & Yogurt Snacks around 8 months.
  • Puréed Food with Meat around 9 months.

Olive was never a big eater. It never really bothered me until Olive turned a year old. I asked my pediatrician what I should do about her eating habits and she assured me that Olive was getting the right amount of nutrients from breast feeding. However, Dr. D recommended that I start the weaning process. My mommy gut knew I should probably listen to her because I had lost a lot of weight from breast feeding 24/7 and my energy level was kaput (guess you could say my daughter was a boobie baby). After a few months of trying to wean I realized that in order for me to actually not give in to morning and night time feedings I would have to stop cold turkey. The day I officially stopped was August 21, 2013. Looking back weaning Olive was not hard at all. There were a few times she would want to nurse and I would just hand her a cup. Guess what?!? As soon as I stopped breast feeding Olive immediately starting eating table food.

What's in the cup?
We have decided not to give Olive  cows milk so she drinks:

  • Organic Almond Milk
  • Organic Coconut Water
  • Water

My breast were engorged for exactly seven days.  The morning of the eighth day I woke up and my breast had reduced several sizes. A few days later I was completely back in my regular size bras!

Weaning Tips and Tricks:

  • You don't have to quit cold turkey. You can reduce feedings and slowly stop. It was just best for me and Olive to quit cold turkey. Why? Felt like I was only teasing Olive. Some days I would give in and nurse her... I would have never stopped. (it was for the best)
  • If you need to quit cold turkey use a breast pump to slowly reduce your milk supply. Just know it will take longer for your milk to dry up.
  • If you want to dry up quickly don't express your breast milk. If the pain is excruciating express a little in the shower.
  • Use organic cabbage for drying up your milk. This also works to reduce swelling since the cabbage is cold. The enzymes in the cabbage supposedly help. Make sure to cover entire breast and replace them when they wilt.
  • Use an ice pack or a frozen towel to reduce swollen breast.
  • Drink sage tea. Sage contains a natural estrogen that is reputed to dry up your milk supply. Peppermint Tea helps too.
  • Take a pain reliever. I used ibuprofen (if you are pumping and saving the milk for your baby, be careful about what you take, consult Dr. etc).
  • Avoid nipple stimulation, as this will trigger milk production.
  • Drink lots of water. If you become dehydrated, you will actually start producing more milk, and your discomfort will increase.
  • The first few nights you may leak. Totally normal.
  • Wear a snug sports bra...even at night. The tighter the bra the more comfortable I felt. Not so tight that it is uncomfortable.
  • I worried about getting a breast infection (mastitis) Never did. A good way to tell if you have mastitis is that your breast will turn completely bright red. (literally... you'll know.)

Here are a few more questions that came up while breast feeding Olive:

1. How do I know she's properly latched on?
Here are twelve signs:
•No Pain
If your newborn is latched on correctly, nursing shouldn't hurt a bit -- though it may feel a bit strange at first. "Breastfeeding [for the first time] is a different sensation than a woman has ever experienced before," says Denise Altman, a registered lactation consultant in Columbia, South Carolina. "It's like trying to describe labor pains to someone who's never had a baby." Altman says you should feel a gentle tugging and slight tenderness at most.
•Pink Lips
When your babe is latched on, his lips should curl around your nipple. "Some babies have very thin lips and some have Angelina Jolie lips," Altman says. "But you should see at least a thin pink line." Lightly push down on your breast tissue to see the latch. If his lips are tucked in, you may develop nipple soreness.
•Tongue Position
Have a helper pull down your baby's lower lip to see if her tongue is in the right spot. If it's not between your breast and her lower gum, the latch is wrong, and it's best to start over. "Make sure the tongue isn't glued to the roof of the mouth," Altman suggests. Tickle your baby's cheek with your nipple to get her to open as wide as possible before bringing her to your breast.
•Asymmetrical Latch
Although the exact position depends on your breast size, at least half of your areola s

hould be in your baby's mouth. For the most comfort, lactation consultants typically recommend an asymmetrical latch, meaning more areola should show above the baby's top lip than below the bottom lip. But, as always, check with your consultant to find out what's best for you.
•Wiggling Ears
If your baby is sucking and swallowing correctly, you should see his ears moving up and down. The movement may be rapid at the start of a feeding and slow as the feeding progresses.
•Swallowing Sounds
Listen for a short "aah" as you nurse your baby, Altman says. This is a sign that her breathing and swallowing are coordinated and she's nursing successfully.
•No Spilled Milk
If milk is leaking out of the corners of your baby's mouth, that usually indicates he isn't latched tightly. However, it also could mean you have an abundant milk supply or your babe is simply a messy eater. "Leaky milk is only a problem if feedings aren't going well," Altman says. "If Mom is having pain or if Baby isn't gaining weight, then there's a problem."
•No Noises
"Usually if you're hearing something, there is a suction break somewhere along the baby's lips," Altman says. Make sure your nipple is deep in her mouth for the best suction. If you start to hear noises, gently insert your index finger into the side of her mouth, pull her off, and start again.
•Relaxed Baby
It's a good thing when your little one mellows during a feeding. "When a baby is breastfeeding, the intestines release a hormone that relaxes," Altman says. If his hands unclench, his legs go limp, and his eyes roll back, that means he's getting his fill. But, Altman warns, he shouldn't fall asleep while sucking. A baby who nods off while nursing is disinterested and isn't getting filled up.
•Round Cheeks
Nicely rounded cheeks mean your baby's mouth is filling with breast milk after each suck -- and that's a good thing. If her cheeks start to hollow -- like she's making a kissing face -- she may not be latched on properly, and you'll need to start over.
•Steady Flow
Altman asks her mothers to imagine a steam train while nursing. "I tell them to picture the little bar that connects the wheels," she says. "Your baby's jaw should be moving forward and backward as smoothly as that bar." If your baby's jaw is gliding, the milk is flowing easily, but if he looks like he's chomping, he's not getting a steady supply.
•Chin Rest
Your newborn's chin should be pushing into your breast and her nose should be lightly resting on your breast. If her face is pulled away from your body, she probably doesn't have enough of your breast in her mouth.
By Randall Noblet of Parent.com

2. Is My Baby Getting Enough Breast Milk?
Babies give us "signs" to let us know they're getting enough to eat. This is handy, after all, as you want to make sure that your baby is receiving all the nourishment she needs and, you can't actually see how much milk she is taking in during each nursing session.

Let the following signs be a good guide that your breast feeding baby is getting enough:

  • Your breasts feel softer after nursing (your baby has emptied some of the milk that was making them firm. And you're hearing the sucking and swallowing sounds associated with that emptying.
  • After a feeding, your baby seems relaxed and satisfied.
  • After gaining back her initial weight loss after birth (within 10-14 days), your baby continues to gain weight. Consult with a lactation consultant and/or your baby's doctor for more details about your baby's growth, but on average, a good weight gain is 1/2 oz-1 oz/d in the early days of life.

In the first few days, when your baby is getting your valuable colostrum, she may have

only one or two wet diapers a day. After your milk comes in however, your baby will wet six to eight diapers per day.
In the first month, your baby has at least three stools a day, and they lighten to a seedy-yellowy/mustard color by the fifth day after birth. She may have less frequent bowel movements once she's around 2 months old. In fact, it's not uncommon for breastfed babies to skip a day of bowel movements now and then. Once she's eating solid foods, at 6 months, she'll probably become quite regular and go back to having at least one bowel movement a day.
During every breastfeeding session, let your baby end the feeding. Your baby will let go or fall asleep when he is no longer hungry. He will look very content. If needed, break suction before you take baby off your breast by gently sliding your finger between your baby’s gums and into his mouth.
-NHA

This was one of my biggest concerns as a new breastfeeding mommy. Is Olive getting enough breast milk? I never really thought I produced enough. However my pediatrician put me ease when she told me that as long as Olive was staying on her growth chart I didn't have to worry.

3. How do I know if she's hungry?
•sucking on their hands; lip smacking.
•rooting, turning head sideways with mouth open.
•fussing.
•you may also see an increase in body movements such as stretching, or hand-to-mouth movements.
-NHA

4. Am I producing enough breast milk?
The FIRST MONTH of breastfeeding is key to developing the milk supply you will have for as long as you breastfeed your baby. In some cases, a mother is unable to produce enough milk to exclusively meet the needs of her baby. However, true milk insufficiencies are very rare. Infact, about 1 in 1000 women is actually unable to produce enough milk to breastfeed.
-NHA

5. How long should I breast feed?
The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends that infants are breastfed exclusively for 6 months, and receive no milk substitutes till 12 months, and that mothers continue to breastfeed after that for as long as they enjoy it. The World Health Organization recommends that infants nurse, here and worldwide, for a minimum of two years.

Here are some of the dangers of weaning in the first year for mothers:
•higher chance of post-partum •hemorrhage after birth in mother
•higher rates of breast, uterine, and ovarian cancer for mothers
•higher osteoporosis rates in mothers who formula feed.

Here are some of the dangers for the babies:
•higher rates of leukemia
•higher rates of breast cancer for daughters
•higher incidence of Crohn's disease
•higher incidence of juvenile diabetes
•lower IQ
•more allergies and asthma
•more ear infections
•more SIDS
•more diarrheal infections
•more respiratory infections
•more bacterial meningitis infections
•more juvenile rheumatoid arthritis
•more Hodgkins disease
Read more at nursingbaby.com

7. What is Dream Feeding?
Dream feeding is the term adopted for a late-night feeding of a newborn. The main benefit of dream feeding is that it helps the baby sleep for a 4- to 5-hour stretch overnight, which allows mom to finally get some much-needed sleep. It's called dream feeding because the baby usually stays asleep through the feeding process. It doesn't work for every baby, but there is a lot of anecdotal evidence that many parents are able to get more sleep by dream feeding.

Benefits of Dream Feeding:
Having a baby can send you on a downward spiral to fatigue and sleeplessness. Your new bundle of joy will wake up every two to three hours for a feeding, so you will have to wake up each time as well. You don't get enough restorative sleep, and it wears you down, potentially deteriorating your health and mental well-being. If dream

feeding works for you, it can allow you to get 4 to 5 hours of sleep. If your partner does the late-night feeding, you might even get in a full night's sleep (occasionally).

How to Dream Feed:
Dream feeding is usually carried out at around 10:30 or 11:00 p.m. Every baby is different, but a typical feeding schedule can occur at 8:00 and 11:00 p.m., followed by 2:00 and 5:00 a.m. (Having fun yet?) For the feeding that occurs in the late-evening hours, the goal is to feed the baby without fully waking him up.

Try to get the baby to take the nipple without waking him. You can do this by brushing the nipple against his cheek. Gently stroking his hand or the soles of his feet can sometimes work too (don't ask us why). Once the baby takes the nipple, you can usually change his diaper without disturbing him too much. Once the feeding is done, gently move him over your shoulder. Burp him and put him back down to sleep.

Hopefully the baby will stay down and sleep past the 2:00 a.m. feeding time. The goal is to stretch out that overnight sleep period as long as possible, so you can get some extra hours of sleep. If you are bottle feeding and your partner can do the dream feed on schedule, you could potentially get a full night's sleep.

When do you Stop Dream Feeding?
You can start weaning the baby off of dream feeding after the first two months or so. After that, most babies start to sleep through the night on their own. Most babies will take no longer than 3 to 4 months before they are sleeping through the night. In some cases, the baby may develop a dependency on that late-night feeding, and it will be more difficult to get them to "kick the habit." You can either reduce the amount that you're feeding them until they can go without it, or just try to quit cold turkey. -Just Mommies

Products that I loved during breast feeding:

  1. Boppy Body Pillow
  2. Burt’s Bees MamaBee Body Oil
  3. Medela Disposable Nursing Bra Pads
  4. Medela Tender Care Lanolin
  5. Hydro Gel Pads
  6. Philips AVENT BPA Free Soothie Pacifier
  7. Medela Backpack Pump
  8. Medela 9 Volt Vehicle Lighter Adapter
  9. Medela Pump & Save Breastmilk Bags
  10. Dr. Browns Glass Bottles
  11. Dr. Browns Nipples
  12. Dr. Browns Bottle Cleaning Brush
  13. Babies R Us Bibs
  14. Bobby Bare Naked PillowSlipcover
  15. Aden+Anais 4 Pack Swaddle Blankets

Did you know?

The 2013 CDC shows that:
76.5% of US infants begin breastfeeding.
49% breastfed till 6 months.
27% breastfed till 12 months.
37.7 excessively breastfed till 3 months.
16.4 exclusively breastfed till 6 months.

*Map Below shows the 2013 percentages of mothers that breast feed in each state.

To all my family and friends:
Please help spread the word of the importance of breast feeding our babies. Together we can educate and motivate mothers here in the states. Believe in yourself, set a goal, donate your breast milk and encourage mothers to breast feed.

I would love to hear your breast feeding story EMAIL ME or comment below.

Thank You!

Thank you Emily for inspiring me to breastfeed. Thank you my husband for believing in me and lifting me up on those days where I just wanted to give up because it was to emotionally exhausting mentally and physically.